There are a lot of things in life that sometimes don’t make sense. They can be the hardest things in the world to go through. They will keep you wondering, guessing and trying to come up with conclusions on when or how or why they happened. And sometimes, you just have to give it a rest and hope for the best. That can be the most confusing and painful part.
You are constantly replaying everything you can remember and think of in your mind to try to figure out when things went wrong. You try to come up with solutions. You think of what you could have done differently or tried harder at. Love is not an easy thing. Love is a roller coaster and with that comes its ups and downs. You need to learn to ride that roller coaster the best way you can. You need to remain positive. Things can be rough, scary and can really freaking suck. But, at the end of the day who are you thinking of? Who’s on your mind from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep? All of those happy thoughts and feelings are what make the ride so thrilling, you just keep holding on. But sometimes, you may need to take a break from that ride, catch your breath, maybe eat some food and have a drink. Then when you’re ready, you can ride it again because it was so great and amazing. And when that time comes, you know how to make the experience even better. It makes you stronger. It makes the relationship stronger. When there’s an up, there’s a down. Always remember there will be another up.
You can focus on the bad times or you can focus your energy on the good times. You can make up excuses and spend time bouncing back and forth in conversations or you can buy her flowers and show up to her house to simply say “I’m sorry. I love you.” What it comes down to is are you willing to commit to a real relationship or not?
During tough times, this is when you learn to shine. You are the diamond in the rough. You can sit here and feel like you got buried in the dirt, or you can learn to dust yourself off and stand up again. Self-care is the best medicine. Focusing your energy on you and solely you, will be the best investment you can do. It’s your time to step it up and learn to fly.
Time to shine, gorgeous.